What men want.

Sometimes we think we know what men want.
But what do they really want?
Volkskrant Magazine recently did research on the ideal of beauty among 3500 Dutch men between 18 and 85 years.
This is what came out:

Intelligence is the most important trait in a woman
53% Of men surveyed 'intelligence' in the top three.
That we must be a loving wife (51%) is a close second. Cheerful (36%), independent (33%) and humor (31%) .

High heels are not attractive
We all think that high heels are very attractive. Well we're thinking it wrong.
Older men are slightly milder in it. As many as 79% of men aged up to 39 years think stilettos simply are not pretty. Let the heels at home, sneakers are more popular.

Say bye to sexy lingerie
Men older than 25 years think sexy lingerie is not necessary for woman to wear.
Well hello: Suprise. I did not see that coming.
In the age under the 25year men will see woman wrapped all up in a sexy lingerie.
When surveyed men over forty years, say more than two thirds that a Hema-slip is ok .
Shocking !!

Pumped tits are out
The men used to be lyrical about the huge inflated tits of Pamela Anderson, today scored a good B-cup better. Well and I was thinking: the bigger the better hahaha.
50% of the participating men chose a B-cup and 44% for a C-cup.

No breasts - or booty men, but eye-men
Are you a breast or booty men is the most asked question to men.
And their answer?
As many as 31% of respondents said "Eyes" when being asked about the woman's favorite body part.

What men want more?
Preference is given to a partner of approximately 6 years younger. Also the fact that men prefer a "natural woman" than a full primed Barbie doll, also remains true.
63% of the men prefer to see her woman in less make up.
Finally, cosmetic procedures are a no-go area, as well as pubic hair and wrinkles.

So we can safely conclude that you do not need too much showing off yourself to win a man for you.
They are happy with the simple thing. So wear a Hema underwear, shave yourself and wear less make up and that must be it.

source: verboden voor mannen.net

Dear " toothfairy"

Children are honest gold and when they find out if some myth are bull they don't feel ashamed to say it.
That's why that the 9 year old Lexi wrote a letter to the "toothfairy".
Her dad found her letter on her pillow and posted this on reddit.

How cute is this?

Lara Stone naked in a magazine without photoshop

Eighteen months after giving birth the Dutch supermodel Lara Stone stand naked in System Magazine with beautifull unedited pictures.
She will show the world that also she after giving birth don't have a thight tummy.

Completely unedited photos in a fashion magazine are very rare.
That at those pictures a woman is showing her post-birth body is even rarer.
Juergen Teller photographed Lara Stone for System Magazine, in a beautiful, fragile and recognizable way.

Lara poses in Calvin Klein underwear, a brand for which she has long been a model.
However, her body as seen in this shoot, it would be significantly modified for an underwear campaign.
In System we see stretch marks, under eye circles, wrinkles, dry skin, flesh that actually moves...
The reality in an era where Photoshop is not indispensable.
It's not often you see that this flavor or sexiness, presented in this way.

What do you think of the unedited pictures of Lara Stone?
I think it's bave of her to show her body like this. It's the reality and it's beautifull.
Everybody is perfect in her own way. And don't let your mind fool you because what you see is edited with photoshop.

Source: Jan Magazine

mom with tats

Sometimes people ask me if I don't regret my tattoos now because I'm a mom.
And well tomorrow I will get another tattoo for my sweet baby girl so I thought it would be time to tell something about it.

That you have tattoos does not mean you are a lousy parent. Don't judge a book by his cover!

I love everything what I've added on my body, for me it has a meaning.

It's a story of my live how I lived my life what I think.

But from the tattoos I've get I get equally as many smiles and conversations with people I may not otherwise spoken to. And those seemling rude stares are often just coming from a place of admiration or curiosity. But I don't care, stare if you like, whisper to your friend.

And I think my tats or not that bad. I can hide them if I really want.

If you decide to get a tattoo in a visibale place, people will look and people will judge.

Society don't accept 100% tattooed people.

And tattooed moms? It's a bad example for your kids... I think that's bullshit!

It's not how you look like or how many tattoos you've got, it's how you raise your children and your beauty from within.

Ofcourse you can think about it what will happen to your career if I place a tattoo on a visible place.

If you're lucky you get a job where they are open minded.

Sometimes I think it's weird that tattoos are still not done on a work place.

Everyboy now a days have tattoos.

 

But that's my opinion.
What do you think to get tatoos? And moms with tats: done or not done?

Let me know!

Breastfeeding pic gets more hate than Kim's butt.

Actress Allysa Milano had her baby girl Elizabella Dylan Bulgari last September. She's very proud of her baby girl and posted a phote of her breastfeeding her on instagram.

Bur the pictures of Kim Kardashians naked body "break the internet" are also a big hit on the internet.

Milano noted that she wears a shirt on her selfie and she gets a ton of backlash while critics seems fine by Kim's oily naked booty.

She tweeted:

I think it's weird that when people put a naked "sexy" photo of them selfs on the internet is all ok. And while you are breastfeeding your baby. What is the most natural and beautifull thing there is is all bad and should not be shown on the internet.

No offence about Kim's picture but if that's beautifull so is breastfeeding your own child. 

What do you think?

Can you show breastfeeding pictures on the internet or is it a no go?

Gingerbread cubes, ginger nuts, spice nuts healthy!

Our lovely Saint is in our country today!

Time to put our shoe in front of the chimney and get some presents, well only if you are good.

Or else you go in the bag and go to Spain to help the Saint for next year.

Well I don't know if that's bad. It's raining here and maybe there is it all sunny.

But back to basic. Since August the first gingerbread cubes, spice nuts, ginger nuts or what ever you will call our Dutch Saint Nicolas sweet treat are in the store. I love those treats a lot but it's not that healthy.

I've made specially for this Holiday a healthy ginger, spice nut cookie.

You can eat a lot more of these then of the store version.

But eat it in moderation. 

This is also a fun recipe to make with your kids!

This recipe is lactose free, there are no refined sugars and no wheat.

Enjoy!!!

 What you need:

120 gram spelled flour

80 gram almond flour

60 gram coconut blossom sugar

5tbsp gingerbread spice

5tbsp liquid coconut oil

2tbsp soy milk

1/4 tsp salt

5drops vanilla extract

Preheat the oven on 180degrees.

Mix both the flour, coconut blossom sugar and spice and salt together.

Add the coconut oil and vanilla extract to it and mix again.

At last add the milk to it and knead it into a ball.

Make small balls out of it and flat it a little.

Put this on a ovenplate.

Put this in the oven for about 20minutes till they are nice and brown.

They will be a little bit soft when they come out of the oven but if you let them cool down a bit they will get hard.

You can keep them for a week in a closed bin.

Pork oyster in red wine

Hello mommies, mommy to be's, fitties and other people.

Vacation is over, we had a great time with the three of us. But more about that later in another blog.

Today we came back and I decided to make a beautifull dish with pork oyster.

It's not to hard to make this and it's oh yummie!!!

I serve the pork oyster with cooked carrots, peas and aspergus.

And some mashed potatoes.

I cooked them smashed them add some milk and basil to it and stirr it all together.

The pork oyster is another story.

What you need:

Red wine 250ml

2pieces of pork oyster

Pepper/salt

Smashed garlic

Onion sliced

First I bake the pork oyster for 5minutes with the garlic pepper and salt.

For the other 5minutes I add the red wine, let it cook.

After the 5minuted I add the onion and bake for another 3minutes.

And now you're done.

Serve this with your mashed potatoes cooked carrots, peas and aspergus. 

An after vacation meal!

Smakelijk eten, bon apetit!

Asian pumpkinsoup

Do you like pumpkinsoup with an extra spice? I do.

Specialy now it's colder, me with a fever I love soup with something extra.

So before we are going to vacation I will share my asian pumpkinsoup recipe!

Enjoy...

Needings:

2 teaspoons coconut oil
1 onion, diced
4 garlic cloves, minced
2 cups pumpkin, peeled and small diced
2 cups vegetable broth
2 cups of coconut milk
1 bay leaf
¼ teaspoon dried thyme
2 tablespoons red curry paste
½ teaspoon nutmeg
sea salt and pepper     

In a pot, heat coconut oil over medium heat. 

Add the onions, garlic and pumpkin and cook 4-5 minutes. 

Add the stock, coconut milk, bay leaf, thyme and curry paste and cook for 15-20 minutes. 

Take off the heat, remove the bay leaf and puree with an immersion blender or regular blender. 

Place back on the stove and add the nutmeg and season with salt and pepper. 

Heat until warmed through.

Asian chickensoup

The flu has control over my body for a week now! 

I feel misserable, tired, pain everywhere and the coughing damn I sound like a seal.

But when I'm sick I love to eat soup.

Well it's the only thing I eat then.

Full with veggies and some spice. 

Today I've made an asian chickensoup. I have made one before but this one I made all by myself. Copyright to me !!!

Ow and the taste is better then it looks like on the pictures.

What you need is:

250ml coconutmilk

250ml chickenbroth

Eggsprouts

Celery chopped

Leek chopped

Diced chicken

Smashed garlic

Pepper and salt

Sambal

Egg noodles

First I'll bake the chicken with some salt and pepper and smashed garlic till they are brown.

Place that on the side.

Add the chickenbroth and coconutmilk in a stockpot and let it boil.

Add the smashed garlic and sambal stirt well. Add the celery, leek and egg sprouts to it and the egg noodles. If the egg noodles are fineshed add the chicken to it.

Let it cook for a minute and voila your fitmomslife chickensoup asian style is ready to serve!

Indonesian kale recipe

Belandas know how to make a real Dutch dish with kale.

We're famous off the kale stamp (smashed potatoes with kale served with smoked sausage or bacon)

But me as an Indo knows that people from Indonesia can make great stuff with kale also.

It's nice and spicy served with rice.

Today I will give you this Indonesian kale recipe. 

Terima kasih kembali!

What you need:

300g smoked bacon diced 

3 large chopped onion 

2 cloves garlic 

500g Kale 

1 tablespoon sambal Oelek 

2 cubes chicken broth

pandan rice 

cucumber

First bake the bacon on high heat in his own fat till cracklings.

Then add the onions and garlic, stir continuely, add a little olive oil and sambal to it.

Then stir the kale through it.

Finally add a cup of water with the cubes chicken broth to it.

Leave the lid on the pan and simmet on a low heat for 45 minutes.

Prepare the rice and cut the cucumber in pieces.

Serve the kale mixture with the rice and cucumber.

Selamat Makan!

Falafel

Falafel is a traditionally Arab food. The word falafel may descend from the Arabic word falafil, a plural of the word Filfil, meaning "pepper."
When falafel is made ​​the traditional way, is indeed a vegan food; it's a great source of protein for people who have cut meat out of Their diet. It's Relatively low in fat and has no cholesterol if you fry it in heart-healthy grapeseed oil. And if you top it with veggies in a pita, it Becomes a filling and nourishing meal! Sure beats a Big Mac, if you ask me.

You will need to soak dried chickpeas overnight for your falafel to turn out right; canned beans are too tender and containerization too much moisture to Achieve the right consistency. Do not cook the beans, Because this will result in a denser mushier and falafel-which is not the clean texture.

1 pound (about 2 cups) dry chick peas
1 small onion, chopped Roughly
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
3-5 cloves garlic
1 1/2 tbsp flour
1 3/4 tsp salt
2 tsp cumin
1 tsp ground coriander
1/4 tsp black pepper
1/4 tsp cayenne pepper
Pinch of ground cardamom
Coconut oil for frying

Pour the chickpeas into a large bowl and cover them by about 3 inches of cold water. Let them soak overnight. They will double in size as they soak.
Pour them into your food processor along with the chopped onion, garlic cloves, parsley, flour, salt, cumin, ground coriander, black pepper, cayenne pepper, and cardamom.
Pulse all ingredients together Until a rough, coarse meal forms. Scrape the sides of the processor Periodically and push the mixture down the sides. Process till the mixture is somewhere entre the texture of couscous and a paste. You want the mixture to hold together, and a more paste-like consistency will help with that.
Cover the bowl with plastic wrap and refrigerate for 1-2 hours.
Form falafel mixture into round balls.
Before frying my first batch of falafel, I like to fry a test one in the center of the pan. If the oil is at the right temperature, it will take 2-3 minutes per side to brown (5-6 minutes total). If it browns faster than that, your oil is too hot and your falafels will not be fully cooked in the center. Cool the oil down slightly and try again. When the oil is at the right temperature, fry the falafels in batches of 5-6 at a time till golden brown on bothsides.

Let them drain on paper towels. Serve the falafels fresh and hot.

Mine are not that perfect round. Sorry for that. 

Easy salad with scampi

I've made an easy salad of mesclun.

Mesclun is a salad mix of assorted small, young salad leaves which originated in provence , France. The traditional mix includes chervil, arugula, leafy lettuces and endive in equal proportions, but in modern iterations may include an undetermined mix of fresh and availablele lettuce, spinach, arugula (rocket, or roquette), Swiss chard (silver beet),mustard greens (Dijon's Child), endive,dandelion, frisée, mizuna, mâche(lamb's lettuce), radicchio, sorrel, and/or other leaf vegetables.

What you need:
Mesclun
coconut oil
smashed garlic
scampi
pepper&salt
eggs

Lemon juice 

I've baked some scampi with smashed garlic some lemon juice and pepper and salt in the coconut oil.

I've made some scrambled eggs.

I've mixed everything in a bowl with the Mesclun.

I said it was easy! Haha. And it is fast to make this salad.

Vacation shoplog

Only 9days to go and we're going on vacation!

Finally together and alone time with the three of us.

No work, no householding, only relaxing.

And vacation time means time for new clothing!

I bought some things online at the H&M webshop.

A colleague of mine bought the vest in another store like what I have orderd now.

I was searching for a poncho kind of thing but this is much better!

She has a great own style also. She wear things I really like but never had the guts to try it on. Especially now when I have a little baby.

I'm blessed with my body that it came out so nice but it's not the same as before I was pregnant.

But she told me how you could wear a crop top and that I sure can wear it.

So this vacation I try this new kind of style out. That 's why I orderd a crop top and a high waist jeans.

What do you think of the stuff I bought?

It's not the destination that matters. It's the change of scene.

Halloween pie

Hip Hip Hooray! Halloween is near!! It's not the ghoulies, ghosties or monsters I fear, it's the 10 lbs of goodies that will go to my rear!!

It's Halloween!!!
I love this holiday. dress up all scary watch scary movies and get some sweet stuff.
I've got a yummie halloween pie recipe for you!

This is what you need:
2 cups pumpkin purée
5 tbsp maple syrup
3 large eggs, slightly beaten
1 cup milk
1/4 tsp. salt
2 tsp. ground cinnamon
1/4 tsp. ground ginger
1/4 tsp. grated nutmeg
1 tsp. vanilla extract

Preheat the oven on 220 degrees.
In a large bowl, combine ingredient and mix well until smooth.
Pour pumpkin filling into pie shell.
Cover the edge of pie with foil.
Bake pie for 15 minutes then remove foil.
Reduce oven temperature to 180 degrees and continued baking for an additional 45 minutes or until a knife inserted near the center comes out clean.

I heard of some superstition where you look at a mirror and say "Bloody Mary" 3 times; wouldn't you get better results to say it while looking at a bartender?

Happy halloween

Non candy halloween snack

Booohooooo it's almost halloween. Just 1day to go abd then it's Time to get some candy and eat it all till my teeth fall out!
I'm joking.

Yesterday I've posted my zombie brain drink and now it's time for another halloween recipe.

You can make non candy snacks to eat or give away this halloween.
Here's one!
And this one is very easy!

Freaky Hot Dog Fingers

Cut hot dogs in half, width wise and then length wise into quarters. Open a package of crescent roll dough and roll Until very thin. Cut the dough into strips and wrap around each piece of hot dog, leaving a little bit of the tip uncovered. Bake as directed.

Zombie brain hemmorhage

It's almost halloween. My favourite holiday of the year!

I want to post a halloween recipe till Friday Halloween day!

So today is my first one but it's not for pregnant woman!

It contains alcohol!!!

So be warned!

If a zombie walked into a bar he would order a brain hemmorhage! He might also eat the bartenders actual brain.

I prefer to think of it as a Zombie Brain Hemorrhage simply because it looks like what I imagine zombie brains would look like: very, very gross. The drink also feels weird in your mouth.

But it taste very damn good! I saw this recipe on tipsy bartenders youtube page. And now it's time to try this out for myself.

Ingredients
1 1/2 oz. Peach Schnapps
1/2 oz. Bailey’s Irish Cream
 Grenadine

Pour the  peach schnapps into a shot glass. Over the back of a spoon, layer the Bailey’s Irish Cream. Hold the bottle of grenadine about 2 inches over the shot glass and slowly pour it in a thin stream. The Bailey’s  will curdle and form “brains”.

Grenadine contains citric acid and that curdles the cream and creates the look of brains.

My Utopia

Maybe you know the tv show Utopia where 15different people get locked up in a place where they must make a new better living together.

For 1year they must stay there without their family and friends. You only can write to eachother.

They must make money, work a lot and figure out what's the best Utopia for them.

Utopia: An imagined place where everything is good and beautiful.

Utopia: Nowhere Land

At first I thought it was crap. My hubby liked the show and I hated it. A group of people in a place and they've got money to start sonething up. I thought it was stupid that they get money allready.

During pregnancy we did not follow it any more till a couple off weeks ago.

It's a show with a lot of drama you can reconize with your own life.

Living for the money, talking behind peoples backs etc.

So I follow the show as a treu fan.

A lot of people in it I like and I think they're great. And others I think they're stupid, lazy and stubborn.

So I admit the show is a succes!

But how they live is not a way how I want to live.

My Utopia is with my daughter, family and friends, with my lovely animals. A big farm with peace for animals and the other living.

Hard work is a must but we respect eachother for who they are and not about the money. No talking behind the backs but just be honest to eachother. Love and Peace for everyone.

My own gym so people can workout.

Lots of friends for my baby girl so she can play with them. 

How does your Utopia look like? 

Mommy tag

I saw this great tag at: dhini and I really wanted to copy this one.
Only I translate it to English ;).

Are you a working mom or a stay at home mom?
I'm a working mom. 32 hours a week. (4days a week) I've used to work 38hours (5days).
I work in a clothing shop that's open 7 days a week. So I work 1 day in the weekend as well.

Would you like to change?
No, I like to work and I want to deserve my own money. Maybe if it will be to tough I will go from 32hours to 24 hours. But we'll see. I'm only working now for 3 weeks.

My child always sleeps in her own bed or crib?
My little girls sleep in her stroller in our bedroom. This was the advice of our maternity care because I breastfeed her and we did not have a crib at our room. We've hoped that she would sleep through the night soon but that is not threu and as advice they tell us to let her sleep with us so I could stay in bed and put her away in her stroller next to me when she's done eating.

The best buy for your child?
Her bedroom. She's got such a beautifull bedroom!

How many children do you want?
I've always wanted two children. So they will have eachother. But first let me enjoy this one.
And then we'll see if we still want a second one or that we'll be blessed to have another one.

Date Night (a getaway with your partner)? How many days / nights a month?
Not that many. We'll go more out with the three of us then only together. I can't be so many times without my baby girl. I want her still near me ;). Haha

Favorite activity off  your child?
Playing with her pink dragon who can makes noices. Or laughing at her big pink big eyed owl!

Have you done a bad bargain during pregnancy?
A pink bouncer. She loved to be rocked if she's sad so we thought to buy a bouncer so that will makes it easy for us to rock her. But she sat only 2 times in it. She's only crying in it because she is not near us.

The favorite food of your child?
Booby milk!!!

Do you have purchased a larger (family) car?
My hubby must get a new one for his work and we picked a bigger car. Opel insignia station.

What is your dream vacation with kids?
Meet my family in Indonesia. Going back to Dubai with her.

And your dream vacation without kids?
Hmmm I can't imaging to go on vacation without kids any more. haha

What has changed in your life since you're mom?
I'm always busy, concerned about how my girl is doing. More tired and have less time for sports or social time with friends.

My heart melts when I ......... .. (make the sentence complete)
My baby girl laughs at me. That's just so cute!!!

Where do you shop the cutest baby stuff?
Zeeman, H&M, Bol.com

Favourite mama makeup and grooming?
Essence make up.

A brand or store brand?
Store brand for diapers (kruidvat) and further I've got Zwitsal.

Have you always had a child wish?
No when I was younger I did not want kids. I did not saw myself as a great mom. I've got a bad example for being a mother.
But when I was older I want children 2 before I became 30.
I'll always so now: I know how to not to do it.

What is the best thing about motherhood?
Creating a miracle. Enjoying everything of it!

Let Me Poop

I hear my little neigbour girl sometimes sing the song from Frozen (Let it go)

I did not know that that song was from a movie till I saw a couple of movies on youtube off people singing that song with their kid (so cute).

But this girl had a special version of the song. Did you hear this one allready?

Zwarte Piet (Black Piet)

Here in Holland we've got a holliday called: Sinterklaas (Nicholas). It's almost the same then Santa Claus.
He rides on a white horse over the rooftops with an entourage of cheerful black Piets (zwarte pieten) his helpers.
Every 5th of December he gaves children presents for everybody who was good that year.
The black Piets go through the chimney to place the present in every kids shoe.

Here in Holland we've got an extreme disccussion about the Black Piets the helpers of Nicholas.
They would be racist because they are black and it would come off the slave trade of the past.
But we celebrate it this way for years. And even in Belgium they do not make such a big point of it.
I can not imaging that the helpers will get another colour. If they are white I would feel discriminated, if they are yellow the Chinese people will come that it's a bad thing.
And what would you tell to the children who know that the helpers are black?
They are black because of the chimney.
Black as soot we would say.

But where does the helpers come from really?

Nicholas initially had no helper, but in 1850 Schenkman introduced in his book St. Nicholas and Helper three new cases, all of which have been in a permanent place in the "Sinterklaas"Nicholas folklore: a helper for Nicholas, the arrival and the steamboat. The helper had in his book no name, he was a colored man, dressed as a page. In the course of time he has had several names; For example, he was called John the servant Trappadoeli, Nicodemus, Assiepan, Sabbas, Hans Moef, Pikkie, Robbert, Jack-crack, Micheltje Hansel of Vese (or Hansel from Kese), Jacques Jour (or Sjaak Sjoor).

In 1859 was for the first a printed article in which he is called: Pieter and in 1895 Black Piet was already come into use. It was not just one black Piet, in 1880 there where two helpers. After the Second World War, Canadian soldiers in the Netherlands organized a Nicholas celebration with a mass of Black Piets. Since then Nicholas accompanied by many helpers, nowadays often each one have their own task, led by a host Piet.While Nicholas is always dignified and distinguished, the Piets behave like acrobats and clowns who often make boyish pranks.

There a couple of stories where the Black Piet has his origin from:

- was originally a chimney sweep, and the soot blackened

- would originally have been a demon who was forced by the sacred to do good deeds.

- would an Ethiopian black slave Piter who was ransomed by St. Nicholas in a slave market in Myra

- would be a pre-Christian deity who had to submit to the Christian saint

- would be conquered Satan, deputy to the vanquished Wotan, or his helper Norvi, the black father of the night, who also wore a roe

- be descended from the black ravens Huginn and Muninn, Odin accompanied

- be descended from berserkers, which the body dyed black and wore animal skins

I think he must stay. He's been here with his black colour for years.

He brings presents and joy to people!

What do you think? Is it's racist or not?

Salad for lunch

What to bring to your work?

I'm hungry a lot lately so sandwiches does not fill me up!

So I've made a salad.

What you need:

1sweet potato cut into pieces

Chickenbreasts in pieces

Grated carrots

Bean sprouts

Endive

Red lettuce

White cabbage

Garlic

Put the potatoes in the oven on 200degrees for 30minutes.

Bake the chicken with some herbs you like and the garlic. If the chicken is almost done put the bean sprouts in it.

Bake them a couple of minuted with it.

Mix everything together and you've got your salad.

Do you like salads?

A windy adventure

It was a nice and warm Sunday. 23degrees for in October , sun was shining and I've got a day off.

After some grocery shopping we've decided to go to the beach with our baby girl.

We've packed our jackets some baby stuff and 1dog (Baco) goes with us.

It would be 3 quarters driving. But with some diversions it take a little bit longer! After more then an hour we've arrived at Grevelingenmeer.

I had a baby carrier for our little girl. We saw some kitesurfers it looks amazing. 

But it was pretty windy and our baby girl starts crying when the wind blew in her face. So we walked out of the wind. But that was hard and everytime the wind blew in her face she cries and did not breath. It was so sad to see that, so we look for a place to drink something.

But we've forgot we've got baco with us haha he was so quiet this time. So we could not drink in a restaurant. We drove past a pavilion but you must get a parking ticket to stand there. What a bummer.

So we went back home.

Only walked for 15minutes but we had a fun 15 minutes walk. Only so sad for our baby girl that she did not like it. Maybe if she's a little bit older.

Things you can't say to parents with 1 kid!

Some parents just can have 1 kid or they just want one kid.
And there will always be some people who makes "jokes"about it that you have 1 kid.

In the past when you were an only child you were often labeled as spoiled or not social.
Now these days we will not hear the things you could have said in the past.
Some people just don't want to have another child, or they could not have another one. So before you will hurt someones feelings read this.
And just don't say those things like:

"Our first child was living completely when he heard that she had a brother or sister."
But why is he so jealous at his birthday?

"Would it be nice to have a little brother or sister for him?"
Just don't you don't know if he will be happy with it.

"And? When comes the second one?"
Second one? I never have thought about it. I just don't want to think about it.

"So let's say, nice and quiet!"
Well with three kids it is pretty busy. But my kid counts for three!

"Don't he feel alone?"
No, he plays with his friends a lot and he can't be bullied by his younger sister.

"With one kid you are pretty flexible?"
And you just don't know that before?

"Look at you, you've got your old figure back. With a second one it will be different"
What do we hear? complain? I know mothers with 3 children with a nice fit body. So off you go to the gym!

"Aaaaah, a second one is so fun!"
I know it is, but whe aren't blessed like you guys!

You just can't look in someones agenda if they are planning to have another one. More parents thinks that one child will be enough these days. Let everyone in its value and enjoy his life.
I really want 2kids. I hope we are blessed to have another one one day. But first I will enjoy my little baby girl. 16weeks allready today!